September 1, 2006

The 2nd Trimester

Yesterday marked my girlfriend’s 14th week and what is suppose to be the start of the 2nd trimester. So today is technically the 2nd day of it, though to me for some reason this mark the 1st official day. Some of my fears can now be eased a little, though they are still high. As she moves into her 2nd the chances of miscarriage decrease. However as if not to let me breathe some, if the baby dies after this, it’s call stillbirth. I think I read too much information for my own good. All I want is a healthy child, but I keep reading so much information; there is miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDs, and that just from now till a few months after the baby is born. Who know what other trouble this child can get themselves into while growing up, yup I guess I’ll never stop worrying lol.

At the moment I guess I can relax in the fact that we had a pre-natal visit this past Saturday and I got to hear the baby’s heartbeat and the doctor said the baby had a strong heart. However couple days later my girl had to be admitted, the doctor thought it be best since she was throwing up a lot, to keep her hydrated. Which brings me to another thing. What is the big deal with which hospital you give birth in?

Now I’m not saying it’s ok to give birth in some backwater dangerous place, but me I’m would be good in a place that is official and safe. My girl seems to focus on bedside manner. Yes it would be cool to have a perfect hospital staff talked to you, had conversations, checked on you often and was just in general polite and joyful. However in today’s society that just doesn’t seem possible, hospitals are understaffed, there’s HMOs, PPOs, POSs, the uninsured, and paperwork, paperwork, paperwork. Yes you will have your one or two (or three if you lucky) nurses and doctors who you just love, but overall bedside manner just isn’t there much. My girl doesn’t want to give birth at one hospital cause the staff isn’t the best, not that they are dangerous or unsafe, but it pretty much boils down to bedside manner. It comes to what she expects the staff “should of did or been doing” and what they actually do. I have the utmost trust in the hospital and staff there, if I felt it was unsafe trust I would of barked, but she focuses on other things. We differ there.

In the end the choice will be hers, and really I don’t care where exactly at long as it isn’t some bootleg place, the only reason, I don’t want to lose the doctor we have now since she can only use that hospital. She is great, she includes me in the process, and not just as some bystander. When she talks to my girl, she will address me as well, I like that. So we shall see how this all plays out, but hey first milestone reached, 2 more to go *whewww*


  1. nyprdiva says:

    Congrats on your forthcoming fatherhood. I wish you and your girlfriend the best of luck!

  2. Jameka says:

    I’m so proud of how involved in the pregnancy and excited you are to be a father. Congrats to you and your new family. I’m so glad you started this blog, your perspective is a much needed one:-)

  3. Chuckito says:

    Way to go, congrats maine! So does this mean I get to teach your newborn new words like “its a zoo” and “sounds like a look?” i’m not giving up my chocolate chip cookies though, lol